The most "independent dame" I ever met was Mae Carey, the mother of my best friend, Donna. I was soooo impressed when I learned what she had done during World War Two. Some time after they were married in 1942, Mae's new husband Don joined the Marine Corps. She told him she planned to join the Women Marines, but he said she couldn't. She agreed not to join the Marines. Instead, she joined the Navy! I love it! Women in the Navy at that time were called WAVES (the acronym for "Women Accepted for Volunteer Emergency Service"). Women were not allowed in combat and had to remain stateside, so Mae worked in the lab in Long Beach.
The photo above shows Mae in her uniform in the 1940s, about the time of this recruiting poster. After the war, Mae and her husband had three girls, and my friend is the middle daughter. If Mae had been a young wife during the American Revolution, rather than during World War Two, I think she might have trooped along with her husband and even taken the place of a fallen soldier, if the need arose. That's what a few wives did back then, according to the legend of Molly Pitcher and some of the stories in this children's book.