Monday, September 25, 2023

Every act of kindness makes a difference

 

I have these words hanging on a small plaque from the box beside my door.  I have been thinking of an act of kindness that's been nudging me for days now:  Clawdia is in kidney failure and losing weight.  She is much thinner now than in the photo below, with her ribs sticking out on each side, so I indulge her when she 
asks to get out of our apartment.  One day she wanted to go for a walk in the hall, so I made four loops to the end of our hallway and back, twice adding the elevator area to our trek.  I'd made a note of how many steps I'd already taken so far that day before we went out the door.  When I checked the number of steps after our walk, I was startled to see I had taken exactly 1,000.  Exactly!  The act of kindness I'm considering?  Euthanasia.
* FYI:  Clawdia died this afternoon, shortly after 3:30 pm.

Sunday, September 24, 2023

Parking spots and books

Memories

My friend and I were going toward my vehicle in the Crown Center parking lot in 2015 when I snapped this view of the neighborhood with trees changing colors.  People who live here can no longer imagine empty parking spaces.  With construction of our newest building and demolition of the oldest one, we have few spaces left for vehicles.  Staff and visitors must park on the street, since there are BARELY enough for residents' cars.

Rambam's Ladder: A Meditation on Generosity and Why It Is Necessary to Give ~ by Julie Salamon, 2003, meditation, 183 pages

This is a book that will inspire usto get a toehold on the ladder and start climbing.  In eight chapters, one for each rung, the book helps us navigate the world of giving.  How much to give?  How do we know if our gifts are being used wisely?  Is it better to give anonymously?  It will help us make our lives, and the lives of those around us, better.

Vocabulary Energizers: Stories of Word Origins ~ by David Popkin, 1988, words, 143 pages

This book builds vocabulary by presenting the fascinating histories behind those words we need for more effective communication and comprehension.

* Vocabulary Energizers II: Stories of Word Origins is the newer edition of this item, but this is the one that I found on my bookshelf.

Deb Nance at 
Readerbuzz
hosts The Sunday Salon.

Saturday, September 23, 2023

"Pass It On" ~ by Henry Burton

Have you had a kindness shown?
Pass it on;
'Twas not given for thee alone,
Pass it on;
Let it travel down the years,
Let it wipe another's tears,
'Till in Heaven the deed appears . . .
Pass it on.

~~~ by Henry Burton

*Note ~ I ran across this first verse in a book, so I'm passing it on for you to ponder, too.

Thursday, September 21, 2023

Thursday Thoughts about Library Loot

Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Commu-nications of the Dying ~ by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley, 1992, psychology, 224 pages

In this moving and compassionate classic, hospice nurses Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley share their intimate experiences with patients at the end of life, drawn from more than twenty years’ experience tending the terminally ill. Through their stories we come to appreciate the near-miraculous ways in which the dying communicate their needs, reveal their feelings, and even choreograph their own final moments; we also discover the gifts — of wisdom, faith, and love — that the dying leave for the living to share.  Filled with practical advice on responding to the requests of the dying and helping them prepare emotionally and spiritually for death, Final Gifts shows how we can help the dying person live fully to the very end.
Listening Is an Act of Love: A Celebration of American Life from the StoryCorps Project ~ edited by Dave Isay, 2007, stories, 293 pages

Dave Isay selects the most memorable stories from StoryCorps' collection, creating a moving portrait of American life.  The voices here connect us to real people and their lives — to their experiences of profound joy, sadness, courage, and despair, to good times and hard times, to good deeds and misdeeds.  To read this book is to be reminded of how rich and varied the American storybook truly is, how resistant to easy categorization or stereotype.  We are our history, individually and collectively, and this book reminds us of this powerful truth.

These are two books I currently have checked out of the library.  I chose them for today's post, even though I previously mentioned them HERE and HERE.  The top book's cover was different online.
Library Loot is a weekly event co-hosted by Claire from The Captive Reader and Sharlene from Real Life Reading that encourages bloggers to share the books they have checked out from the library.  Both of these are from the Crown Center's library.

*Speaking of dying, someone shared this story yesterday in the Café (you need to know her mother died decades ago):
 
"I think I died just after midnight.  Mother came for me, but said, 'Not yet,' and I woke up and was back in my bed, alive.  When she came and seemed to be looking for me, I said, 'I'm here on this chair and . . .'  Then I searched for the other word that I needed — ottoman — which was where my feet were resting.  Mother looked at me, said those two words 'Not yet,' and faded away."

Was that a near death experience?  She said she was in bed, but her vision said chair and ottoman.  What's up with that?  Will she die in her chair, maybe soon?

(Note:  Speaking of "a near death experience," on page 173 near the end of the book In the Middle of the Night by Robert Cormier, I was surprised to read these words from a character in the book who had died briefly and was brought back to life:  "There's nothing out there Baby.  Now you know why I never wanted to tell you what happened.  No matter what the priests or the ministers say, or those people talking about near-death experiences."  I finished reading those last pages of Cormier's book a mere nine days after writing this post.)

**Speaking of StoryCorps, I ran across a 2019 blog post (that never got posted) while putting this one together.  I was among those invited to hear a presentation about our community's Oral History Project and had been pondering some of the questions since then (click the link to see the questions), including this one:
"School:  Are you still friends with anyone from that time in your life?"
We heard details at a meeting, and an old school friend had just sent me a letter with this old B/W photo of the two of us.  (B/W is an abbreviation referring to a photograph in shades of black and white as opposed to a color photograph.)  That's Shirley on the left and me on the right in the 1950s.

Wednesday, September 20, 2023

As a wordsmith who loves words, I think I'd love to read this book

The Dictionary People: The Unsung Heroes Who Created the Oxford English Dictionary ~ by Sarah Ogilvie, 2023, words, 384 pages

The Oxford English Dictionary is one of the greatest achievements humans have made.  Yet, curiously, its creators are almost never considered.  Who were the people behind this unprecedented book?  As Sarah Ogilvie reveals, they include three murderers, a collector of pornography, the daughter of Karl Marx, a president of Yale, a radical suffragette, a vicar who was later found dead in the cupboard of his chapel, an inventor of the first American subway, a female anti-slavery activist in Philadelphia . . . and thousands of others.

Of deep transgenerational and broad appeal, a thrilling literary detective story that, for the first time, unravels the mystery of the endlessly fascinating contributors the world over who, for over seventy years, helped to codify the way we read and write and speak.  It was the greatest crowdsourcing endeavor in human history, the Wikipedia of its time.  It's a celebration of words, language, and people, whose eccentricities and obsessions, triumphs, and failures enriched the English language.

Update on 9/21/23:  Thanks, Helen (see comment below).  I was not aware of the book by Simon Winchester on this subject.  He's an excellent writer.  Here's more information about his book.
The Professor and the Madman: A Tale of Murder, Insanity, and the Making of the Oxford English Dictionary
~ by Simon Winchester, 1998, words, 256 pages

The Professor and the Madman (a New York Times Notable Book) is an extraordinary tale of madness, genius, and the incredible obsessions of two remarkable men that led to the making of the Oxford English Dictionary — and literary history.

The making of the OED was one of the most ambitious projects ever undertaken.  As definitions were collected, the overseeing committee, led by Professor James Murray, was stunned to discover that one man, Dr. W. C. Minor, had submitted more than ten thousand.  But their surprise would pale in comparison to what they were about to discover when the committee insisted on honoring him:  Dr. Minor, an American Civil War veteran, was also an inmate at an asylum for the criminally insane.

William Safire wrote that the book was masterfully researched and eloquently written, "the linguistic detective story of the decade" (New York Times Magazine).  This P.S. edition features an extra 16 pages of insights into the book, including author interviews and recommended reading.

Monday, September 18, 2023

Musing about money


"Paper checks are dead.  Cash is dying."  I read that in an article online and thought it was quite accurate.  I write a rent check each month and another check for the monthly meal plan.  That's it.  I was talking to someone recently about how we have quit using "heavy" coins.  A nickel isn't worth carrying around, and neither is a penny.  Hmm, or a dime, for that matter.  I only use coins when I buy a snack from a vending machine, and that's rare these days.  Before I moved into my new apartment, I needed quarters for machines to wash and dry sheets and clothes.  Now I don't leave home to do my laundry.

Sunday, September 17, 2023

Coming down and moving on

Demolition has begun on the 10-story building on the right.  Two of my old apartment windows were those first ones from the right on the sixth floor.

My friend Alyssa took this picture, calling it "deconstruction, brick by brick."  That's her old apartment just to the left of the demolition, the one window on the top floor to the left of the worker and the window at an angle beside it with an air conditioner.  This view is from the parking lot to the right of the upper photo.

Move On: Adventures in the Real World
~ by Linda Ellerbee, 1991, memoir, 269 pages

The renowned journalist discusses professional perils and changes in her family, society, her generation, and herself, along with such issues as parenting, communes, Maxwell House, alcohol, and feminism.

The Existential Imagination
~ by Frederick R. Karl and Leo Hamalian, 1963, philosophy (existentialism), 288 pages

Existentialism is the most challenging philosophic movement of the 20th Century.  The hurricane of argument it engendered shook the very framework of humanity's moral and spiritual traditions.  This anthology charts the development of existential thought through the classic literature of past and present and provides new insights into that intellectual revolution.
Deb Nance at 
Readerbuzz
hosts The Sunday Salon.

Saturday, September 16, 2023

Saturday stuff includes some library loot

The Human Comedy ~ by William Saroyan, illustrated by Don Freeman, 1943, literary fiction (California), 192 pages

The place is Ithaca, in California's San Joaquin Valley.  The time is World War II.  The family is the Macauleys — a mother, sister, and three brothers whose struggles and dreams reflect those of America's second-generation immigrants.  In particular, fourteen-year-old Homer, determined to become one of the fastest telegraph messengers in the West, finds himself caught between reality and illusion as delivering his messages of wartime death, love, and money brings him face-to-face with human emotion at its most naked and raw.  This novel shows us the boy becoming the man in a world that even in the midst of war, appears sweeter, safer, and more livable than our own.

Friday, September 15, 2023

Beginning ~ with Grandpa's ashes

Beginning
All summer long Grandpa remains in the basement, two pounds of cremated ash in a plain cardboard cylinder. I can't get used to the idea of this powder being the guy who taught me how to land brook trout with a hand-tied fly . . . He had smoked himself to death . . . Fifty years of two packs a day, that's what did it.  Finally, the emphysema literally asphyxiated him.  My job is to bury him.  Something appropriate, my Granny says, handing me the cylinder after the funeral.  "Just throw him off the ferry or dump him into the Yakima River," she says  "Whatever you think is best."
The Good Rain: Across Time and Terrain in the Pacific Northwest ~ by Timothy Egan, 1990, history/nature, 255 pages

In the valleys of the Olympic Mountains, it can rain six feet in two months and tree trunks can grow as wide as garage doors.  Timothy Egan describes his journeys in the Pacific Northwest through visits to salmon fisheries, redwood forests, and the manicured English gardens of Vancouver, as he blends history, anthropology, and politics.

P.S.  On the second page in the fifth paragraph of the book, the decision about Grandpa has been made:  "The volcano of Ranier, I conclude, is where he belongs."  This beginning makes me want to keep reading to see what he does.  How about you?
Gilion at Rose City Reader hosts Book Beginnings on Fridays

Thursday, September 14, 2023

Thinking about history ~ and King Tut

The Complete Tutankhamun: The King, the Tomb, the Royal Treasure ~ by Nicholas Reeves, 1990, history, 224 pages

The tomb of Tutankhamun, with its breathtaking treasures, has exerted a unique hold on the popular imagination ever since its discovery in 1922.  It remains the greatest archeological find ever made.  The story of the boy-king who was buried in splendor at the height of Egyptian civilization. the determined quest for his tomb by Howard Carter and Lord Carnarvon, and the unforeseen riches eventually revealed — these are ingredients unparalleled in the annuals of archaeology.

Yet for all the publicity at the time of the discovery and since — given added spice by the linking of Carnarvon's early death with the legend of pharaoh's curse — it remains a story that had been only partly told, since Carter never produced a complete account of his excavations.  The Tutankhamun exhibitions of the 1960s and 1970s generated a spate of popular books, but none added significantly to what Carter had already published about the tomb.  This book with its 519 illustrations (65 of them in color) was written to tell the whole story.

Wednesday, September 13, 2023

These words "tie" together nicely

Karen was drinking Chai Tea when she sat down beside me and said, "I was doing Tai Chi, and now I'm drinking Chai Tea."  I immediately wrote that down to share here on my blog.  I love it!  The Tai Chi class she's in is for the Chinese seniors at the Crown Center, but she says she does okay without knowing the language.
When I searched for an image to use, I quickly learned that Karen is not the first to tie those word pairs together.  And now I want to read the book at the top, which is a "culinary cozy mystery."  Actually, it is book #11 of 21 books in the Auntie Clem's Bakery Book series.  Hmm, I wonder whether I can jump into the series anywhere, or if I need to read those other ten books first.  Have any of you read books in that series?  If you have, please give me some advice on what I should do.

Tuesday, September 12, 2023

Two books of poetry

The Beginning and the End and Other Poems ~ by Robinson Jeffers, 1963, poetry, 74 pages
Jeffers is concerned with a search for the key to the agonizing contrast of nature's splendor and the corruption of humans.  He is disappointed (and sometimes enraged) by the fact that humans will do anything, and he is determined to show the magnificence of the world's wild alternatives to corruption, with the rugged Monterey coast in California providing the setting for his vivid descriptions of natural wonders.
The Colossus and Other Poems ~ by Sylvia Plath, 1962, poetry, 96 pages
Plath burst into literature with this startling book of poems.  In such classics as "The Beekeeper's Daughter," "The Disquieting Muses," "I Want, I Want," and "Full Fathom Five," she writes about sows and skeletons, fathers and suicides, about the noisy imperatives of life and the chilly hunger for death.

Monday, September 11, 2023

Musing about trends ~ did these things happen?

The Master Trend: How the Baby Boom Generation Is Remaking America
~ by Cheryl Russell, 1993, social aspects, 285 pages

This 30-year-old book claims that the Baby Boom generation (born between 1946 and 1964) was leading the nation into the future.  They had elected one of its own to the White House (Bill Clinton was born in 1946), and this generation — the largest and best educated in history — was poised to place its imprint on the 21st century.  Cheryl Russell was predicting the future of this most singular of generations.  Members of the Baby Boom generation, according to her, have always embraced their independence.  This individualism became the master trend of that time.

But the Baby Boom generation found itself in the midst of a midlife crisis as it was pulled in one direction by its sense of individualism and in another by its children.  Baby Boomers, following the beat of their own drummer, were suddenly awakening to the urgent need to bring society together for the sake of their children's future.  The Baby Boom generation prizes individualism so highly that it became the first generation of what Cheryl Russell calls "free agents."  Free agents became both the creators and the eager customers of a new, fast-paced, hotly competitive "personalized economy" that seized on cutting-edge technologies to produce the innovative and custom-designed products and services the world needed.

This 1993 book asked if this personalized economy would bring prosperity to Americans.  Would the free agents of the Baby Boom generation make life better for all of us?  Would they learn to work together for the good of society?  And what kind of society are the Baby Boomers leaving to their children?  In a culture that values individualism above all, what would happen to the unprepared millions trapped in the margins of society?
I'm not sure this book is worth reading at this point, since we've added "new" generations since the Boomers.  I have no idea who decided which folks are in which generation, but below is what I found online.  Notice it does NOT agree what the 2019 chart above:
  • Greatest Generation is anyone born from 1901 to 1924.
  • Silent Generation is anyone born from 1925 to 1945.
  • Baby Boomer is anyone born from 1946 to 1964.
  • Generation X is anyone born from 1965 to 1980.
  • Millennial is anyone born from 1981 to 1996.
  • Generation Z is anyone born from 1997 to 2012.
  • Generation Alpha is anyone born from 2013 to 2024.
  • Generation Beta will be those born from 2025 to 2039.
So what year were you born, and which generation do you consider yourself a part of?  I was born in 1940, making me part of the Silent Generation.  But I rarely keep silent.

Sunday, September 10, 2023

Books for this week

In the Middle of the Night ~ by Robert Cormier, 1995, mystery, 184 pages
Eight years before Denny Colbert was born, his father was involved in a tragic accident that killed 22 children.  Now Denny is 16, and all he wants is to be like other kids his age.  But he isn't allowed to answer the telephone or have a driver's license, and his family is constantly moving from town to town — all because people can't forget what happened long ago.  When Denny defies his parents one afternoon and answers the telephone, he finds himself drawn into a plot for revenge which may prove deadly.
The Second Tree from the Corner ~ by E. B. White, 1954, essays, 253 pages
A man visits a psychiatrist a number of times to see if the doctor can dispel his unstable feelings. Unfortunately he is not a properly cooperative patient and he ends by putting himself in the doctor's position and worrying about him (the doctor) rather than himself.
The Shape of Illusion ~ by William E. Barrett, 1972, fiction,  256 pages

Kirk Donner couldn't believe what he saw in the painting hanging on a New York art gallery wall.  Painted by a little-known 17th century artist, the canvas showed Jesus surrounded by a mocking crowd after Pontius Pilate had sentenced him to death.  Glancing at the angry mob, Kirk saw his own face in its midst.  And everyone else who looked at the painting saw his own likeness there, too.

Intrigues by the painting's magical powers, Kirk journeyed to the small German village where the artist had lived to find out all he could about its history.  There he met another American — a beautiful girl who had come to review the village's famed Passion Play.  Someone commented online that the protagonist is agnostic and his beliefs don't change, but his sense of something powerful outside himself does, adding that "the way he figures out he's met the girl he's supposed to marry is worth the read alone."

Deb Nance at 
Readerbuzz
hosts The Sunday Salon.

Saturday, September 9, 2023

Saturday stuff

Success: A Search for Values ~ by Audrey Roth, 1969, textbook, xx + 427 pages

This volume contains works from many media.  Several eras and cultures are represented.  There are examples of fiction, of prose and poetry — and of pictures.  The book examines the many aspects of success, in order to help individuals in their search for meaning and attitude toward that single thing.

With this book, I choose NOT to read from start to finish, but to dip into it whenever and wherever I like.  Not every book should be read from cover to cover, and this one is a textbook with work to do for class.  I have had it since June of 1977 (when I lived on a mountain top in Tennessee), and it's just been sitting there waiting for me to read it.  I flipped it open and read one short piece while writing this and enjoyed it immensely.

Friday, September 8, 2023

Beginning ~ with a story from Durham, NC

Beginning (of the first story, page 10)
Cynthia Rahn:  I lived very far out in the country, and I had just started kindergarten with a lot of kids from town that I didn't know.  We had an assignment to bring in either a toy or a stuffed animal or something you found in your barn so that we could create a barnyard diorama.  I was a little shy and insecure because I knew I was from out in the country and probably looked poor to everybody else, and certainly everybody else looked rich to me.  So I felt a little intimidated.
Listening Is an Act of Love: A Celebration of American Life from the StoryCorps Project ~ edited by Dave Isay, 2007, stories, 293 pages

Dave Isay selects the most memorable stories from StoryCorps' collection, creating a moving portrait of American life.  The voices here connect us to real people and their lives — to their experiences of profound joy, sadness, courage, and despair, to good times and hard times, to good deeds and misdeeds.  To read this book is to be reminded of how rich and varied the American storybook truly is, how resistant to easy categorization or stereotype.  We are our history, individually and collectively, and this book reminds us of this powerful truth.

Gilion at Rose City Reader hosts Book Beginnings on Fridays

Thursday, September 7, 2023

Thursday thoughts about reading and readers

Which are you?  I devour books, quickly, but I also savor some books every few years.  I was talking to a new neighbor about one of those books that I read repeatedly, and it's a category she and I both love to read:  time travel.  But she has never read this one.  Now I'm wanting to ask the library for two copies, so she and I can both read and discuss the book.  "What book was that?" you ask.  It is Time and Again by Jack Finney, 1970.  Click HERE to see the many times that I have written about this book.  Yeah, a lot of times, isn't it?

What thoughts are on your mind this Thursday?

Wednesday, September 6, 2023

I love words

ex·u·ber·ant / iɡˈzo͞ob(ə)rənt, eɡˈzo͞ob(ə)rənt / adjective = filled with or characterized by a lively energy and excitement.  Example: "The exuberant crowds welcomed him."

ex·or·bi·tant
/ iɡˈzôrbətnt, eɡˈzôrbətnt / adjective = unreasonably high (when speaking of a price or amount charged).  Example:  "I didn't go to that concert because of the exorbitant price of tickets."

(You may wonder why I'm featuring these words together.  I recently overheard someone say to another person at her table, "And the cost was not exuberant."  I knew what she meant, and probably her listener did, too.  But it made me smile and gave me a couple of words to share on the blog today.)

Tuesday, September 5, 2023

Two for TWOsday, both recommended by Risé

Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying ~ by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley, 1992, psychology, 224 pages
In this moving and compassionate classic, hospice nurses Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley share their intimate experiences with patients at the end of life, drawn from more than twenty years’ experience tending the terminally ill. Through their stories we come to appreciate the near-miraculous ways in which the dying communicate their needs, reveal their feelings, and even choreograph their own final moments; we also discover the gifts — of wisdom, faith, and love — that the dying leave for the living to share.  Filled with practical advice on responding to the requests of the dying and helping them prepare emotionally and spiritually for death, Final Gifts shows how we can help the dying person live fully to the very end.
How We Die: Reflections on Life's Final Chapter
~ by Sherwin B. Nuland, 1995, psychology, xviii 
+ 278 pages

This National Book Award Winner and national bestseller addresses issues in end-of-life care and includes an afterword that discusses how we can take control of our own final days and those of our loved ones.  Each of us will die in a way that is different from anyone else's death.  Behind each death is a story.  Sherwin B. Nuland (1930-2014) was a surgeon and a teacher of medicine.  In this book, he gave us portraits of the experience of dying that makes clear the choices we can make to allow us our own death.

Risé was working in the Crown Center library, so I went in to speak to her.  While we were talking, Harry came in to get a book, which they must have talked about, since she handed it to him.  It was the first book above (Final Gifts), and while we were talking, I noticed the second book (How We Die) among the nonfiction on the counter.  Risé said she recommends both books, so Harry checked out one and I checked out the other; we agreed to swap books after we finish the ones we had in hand.

** Footnote **
Two related books I've written about in the past on this blog are:
  1. The Art of Dying ~ by Katy Butler (posted HERE in 2014)
  2. Being Mortal ~ by Atul Gawande (posted HERE in 2019)