Friday, February 7, 2014

Friday Five ~ hyacinths and more hyacinths

Today's Friday Five comes from 3dogmom:  "Here in Nashville the annual Antiques and Garden Show is getting underway.  The temperatures are more cold and windy than is typical, and the garden displays with colorful spring blooms are going to be tonic for many of the souls that visit the show this weekend.  Punxsutawney Phil may have predicted another six weeks of winter when he saw his shadow, but spring is on the minds of many!  With that in mind..."

1)  What do you anticipate with the coming of spring?
I'm not close enough to spring to be anticipating it yet.  For spring, all I anticipate is the usual:  warmer, greener, and sneezier.  Yep, I'm allergic to spring's pollen.
2)  Is there anything you will miss about winter?
Not that I can think of right now.
3)  Is there an occasion on the horizon to which you’re looking forward?
I must be really down today, since I'm not even looking forward to anything except finishing the novel I'm reading.  Maybe I should just chuck this Friday Five exercise.
4)  Do you have a favorite spring memory?
Hmm, all my children were born in the spring, technically.  My twin daughters were born on May 3rd, and my son three years later was born four minutes before it officially became summer on June 21st that year.  Does that count as one or two memories?
5)  Do you have a favorite spring flower/bloom, and if so, what makes it special to you?
Okay, here's one I really can answer.  Hyacinths, seeing them or (especially) smelling them, takes me back to my childhood.  After my maternal grandmother died, we moved into her house.  Our sandbox was in the back yard beside the free-standing garage, and hyacinths grew all along the side of the garage.  My grandmother had a green thumb, so flowers were everywhere in the side yard, in a brick-edged garden beside the back door, in a rock garden in a corner of the yard.  Everywhere.  But it's the smell of hyacinths that take me back, reminding me of that yard where later in the year I climbed the plum tree and ate the warm plums right off the tree.  Now that I'm "into" hyacinths, I think I'll cover this post with them.  Move aside, words!  Here come the flowers!

Beginning ~ with a Victorian manor

A Perfectly Good Family ~ by Lionel Shriver, 2007, fiction (North Carolina)
'Don't tell me,' said the taxi driver, rubber-necking at the formidable Victorian manor.  'Your mother's Norman Bates.'

'My mother's dead,' I said.  Harsh, but the information was so fresh for me, only two weeks old, that I was still repeating it to myself.
I've already read more than a hundred pages since I started this novel last night. Obviously, it pulled me in, and I've barely put it down (except to sleep) since I started. "A perfectly good family" this is NOT. In fact, it's even more dysfunctional than my family.


Gilion at Rose City Reader hosts Book Beginnings on Fridays.  Click here for today's Mister Linky.

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Library Loot ~ February 5-11

The Housemaid's Daughter ~ by Barbara Mutch, 2012, fiction (South Africa)
Barbara Mutch's stunning first novel tells a story of love and duty colliding on the arid plains of Apartheid-era South Africa.  When Cathleen Harrington leaves her home in Ireland in 1919 to travel to South Africa, she knows that she does not love the man she is to marry there her fiance Edward, whom she has not seen for five years.  Isolated and estranged in a small town in the harsh Karoo desert, her only real companions are her diary and her housemaid, and later the housemaid's daughter, Ada.  When Ada is born, Cathleen recognizes in her someone she can love and respond to in a way that she cannot with her own family.  Under Cathleen’s tutelage, Ada grows into an accomplished pianist and a reader who cannot resist turning the pages of the diary, discovering the secrets Cathleen sought to hide.  As they grow closer, Ada sees new possibilities in front of her a new horizon.  But in one night, everything changes, and Cathleen comes home from a trip to find that Ada has disappeared, scorned by her own community.  Cathleen must make a choice:  Should she conform to society, or search for the girl who has become closer to her than her own daughter?
The Good Girls Revolt: How the Women of Newsweek Sued Their Bosses and Changed the Workplace ~ by Lynn Povich, 2012, memoir (USA)
It was the 1960s a time of economic boom and social strife.  Young women poured into the workplace, but the “Help Wanted” ads were segregated by gender and office culture was rife with sexual stereotyping and discrimination.  Lynn Povich was one of the lucky ones, landing a job at Newsweek, renowned for its cutting-edge coverage of civil rights and the “Swinging Sixties.”  Nora Ephron, Jane Bryant Quinn, Ellen Goodman, and Susan Brownmiller all started there as well.  It was a top-notch job for a girl at an exciting place.  But it was a dead end.  Women researchers sometimes became reporters, rarely writers, and never editors.  Any aspiring female journalist was told, “If you want to be a writer, go somewhere else.”  On March 16, 1970, the day Newsweek published a cover story on the fledgling feminist movement entitled “Women in Revolt,” forty-six Newsweek women charged the magazine with discrimination in hiring and promotion.   It was the first female class action lawsuit the first by women journalists and it inspired other women in the media to quickly follow suit. Lynn Povich was one of the ringleaders.  With warmth, humor, and perspective, she shows how personal experiences and cultural shifts led a group of well-mannered, largely apolitical women, raised in the 1940s and 1950s, to challenge their bosses and what happened after they did.  For many, filing the suit was a radicalizing act that empowered them to “find themselves” and fight back.  Others lost their way amid opportunities, pressures, discouragements, and hostilities they weren’t prepared to navigate.  The book also explores why changes in the law didn’t solve everything.  Through the lives of young female journalists at Newsweek today, Lynn Povich shows what has and hasn’t changed in the workplace.

Library Loot is a weekly event co-hosted by Claire @ The Captive Reader and Linda @ Silly Little Mischief that encourages us to name the books we checked out of the library.  Click here to see what others got this week.

Monday, February 3, 2014

Monday Mindfulness ~ mandalas

"I've recently been coloring mandalas like crazy:  I love it!  In many cultures, constructing artistic mandalas is a meditative and shamanic practice intentionally undertaken to affect positive change.  As sacred geometrical constructs, they have the potential to shift consciousness and patterns.  Working with color has an added therapeutic benefit.  Light a candle, play music, set your intention, and then color!  Check out Drawing Mandalas from Nature and Power Mandalas."
 — Tesswhitehurst.com

Sunday, February 2, 2014

Sunday Salon ~ compassion

This is a wonderful example of compassion, showing that even small children can be compassionate.  Three-year-old Jaxon's mommy said, "Love this little boy's heart!   Playing Candyland and he was upset when I told him he beat mommy.  He asked why we both couldn't win and took my piece and took it to the Kastle and said, 'There, we boff winned.' "

BOOKS

Brave Girl: Clara and the Shirtwaist Makers' Strike of 1909 ~ by Michelle Markel, 2013, children's history, 9/10
Clara Lemlich (1886-1982) was an immigrant from the Ukraine who couldn't speak English, but she nevertheless led several strikes against working conditions of women garment makers a century ago.
I posted this as my only library loot for the week.  Helen of Helen's Book Blog commented:
"Such an interesting time!  Sophia just read a historical fiction called Ashes of Roses about an Irish immigrant who works in the Triangle Shirtwaist factory when the fire happens."
Because I'm interested in history, the first thing I noticed when I picked up this 32-page picture book is an illustration near the middle showing the outside of a big building with comic-book bubbles coming from the windows of one upper floor saying, "Strike! Strike! Strike! Strike! Strike! Strike!"  On the side of the building is a sign saying "Triangle Waist Company," which is not mentioned anywhere in the story except in this illustration. In the two pages at the end for adults (or older children) is this sentence:
"Some companies refused to negotiate, notably the Triangle Waist Factory, where the following year hazardous conditions led to a fire that claimed 146 lives."
Interesting that Helen's daughter was reading about the same thing.  Have you ever heard of that famous fire?  It changed the working world because it was so awful.

WORD of the WEEK
My Aunt Bonnie, for whom I was named, was the only person I've ever heard use this unusual word.  She must have thought it was funny, since she used it on a regular basis.  I'm not sure you can figure out the word's meaning from the cartoon above.
"My dog masticated my vocab."
Perhaps the boy thinks it means "ate," as in the dog ate my homework, but masticated actually means "chewed."  My aunt would tell us we should masticate our food thoroughly.  She helped me learn "vocab," but would have been appalled by the shortened form of a perfectly good word:  vocabulary.  Maybe my Aunt Bonnie is part of what's behind my fascination with words.


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Friday, January 31, 2014

Professor Bonnie

I took one of those silly quizzes that my friends were taking on Facebook.  It's called What Career Should You Actually Have?  The ten questions are pretty ridiculous, but I muddled through them, choosing something each time.  The quiz rumbled and shuddered (I may be slightly exaggerating) before popping out the answer.  Now you know the career I *SHOULD* have had before retirement.  Wait!  I really DID this.

"You are a thinker, in constant search of knowledge and answers to life’s most illusive questions. You love to analyze everything, testing out theories and pushing mental boundaries. Basically you’re an Einstein, but then again you probably already knew that."
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Analysis (it's what I do)

Spell check is challenging the word "illusive" as possibly misspelled, so let's define these words:
illusive ~ adj. (literary) ~ deceptive; illusory; misleading; unreal.

elusive ~ adj. ~ eluding clear perception or complete mental grasp; hard to express or define; puzzling, baffling.
Elementary, my dear Watson!  The maker of the quiz quite likely used the wrong word.  Indeed, she or he should have referred to "life's most elusive questions."  Analysis complete.
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If you want to take the same quiz, click here.  Maybe it will also tell you what you already know.

By the way, can you name the "professor" in that photo above?  That's Professor Minerva McGonagall of Hogwarts.

Book Beginnings ~ it begins with waiting

The Summer Before the Dark ~ by Doris Lessing, 1973, fiction (London, Turkey, Spain)
"A woman stood on her back step, arms folded, waiting."
I read this book about forty years ago, when it was first published.  I had that first one, on the left, the original hardcover published in 1973.  The one I currently have in my hand is the 1983 paperback, with waving plants on the cover.  But I think that 2009 trade paperback with Nobel Prize sticker on it is the "best" cover — a sort of haunting foggy darkness that feels oppressive.  Here's a synopsis of the story:
Kate Brown is faced for the first time in twenty years with the prospect of being alone.  Her children are grown; her husband — a successful neurologist — is going to work for some months in an American hospital.  Urged by him to take a job, she finds herself acting as interpreter for an international conference on food, becoming substitute mother to all the delegates, flying off to Turkey for another conference, to Spain for an affair with a younger man — all the traditional outlets.  But this summer of exploration, freedom and self-discovery, during which she rejects the stereotypes of femininity — that, like her conventional clothes, do not fit her any longer — becomes more than a private stocktaking.  What Kate discovers in this time of crisis enrages and appalls her as it brings her face to face with herself.  At the beginning of the novel, Kate Brown is a fashionable and competent woman in a suburban garden.  By summer's end the woman she was — living behind a protective camouflage of feminine charm and caring — no longer exists.
I divorced my husband in 1973, plunging myself into poverty and becoming a single mother of three trying to finish my bachelor's degree.  I was learning all about the gender gap in the 1960s and 1970s, when it would cost me almost as much in childcare as I could earn — as a woman.  I kind of went crazy in the 60s and 70s, while all around me hippies and flower children were exploring the sexual revolution.

In 1979, I began teaching about racism, sexism, and  EEO compliance to managers of a federal agency. (EEO, or Equal Employment Opportunity, was our country's new mandate.)  I became a radicalized defender of women's rights, trying to explain women's lib (that's "lib-eration," folks) and the ERA (Equal Rights Amendment) to uncomprehending people like my ex-husband.  When I read him the twenty-four words of the ERA, he was astounded.  "That's all it says?"  He had been brainwashed into believing it required lots of things it didn't, like women being drafted and sharing uni-sex public bathrooms.  (Count the words in quotes in this ERA illustration — twenty-four words.  I carried these words around with me on something like a business card, just to disillusion detractors.  My ex's reaction was the best:  "That's all it says?  That doesn't seem so bad.")

In that world, in that time, I first read this book by Doris Lessing — and never forgot it.  I joined a consciousness-raising group and read most of the books now listed as classics of women's liberation, including these:
The Feminine Mystique (1963) ~ by Betty Friedan,
The Second Sex (1949) ~ by Simone de Beauvoir,
In a Different Voice (1982) ~ by Carol Gilligan,
The Women's Room (1977) ~ by Marilyn French,
The Bell Jar (1949) ~ by Sylvia Plath,
Diary of a Mad Housewife (1967) ~ by Sue Kaufman,
Beyond God the Father (1973) ~ by Mary Daly,
and Our Bodies, Ourselves (1973) ~ by The Boston Women's Health Book Collective.
And now it seems like it's time to re-read this book and explore once again "the summer of the dark."  (CORRECTION:  That's an interesting — Freudian? — typo.  I should have said "the summer before the dark."  Maybe those summers were darker than I remembered.)



Gilion at Rose City Reader hosts Book Beginnings on Fridays.  Click here for today's Mister Linky.